Monday, February 26, 2007

Ad Delo yada

OK this post is about the general garbage that Purim has DEvolved into.


1. Themes - this has got to be way off the original 'shaloch manos ish l'ra-ayhu'. I mean come on, 7 little kids dressed like pizza delivery dudes bringing a pizza pie made of marzipan?

I spent some time in Israel and I gotta tell you, it was amazing. The kids are dressed a bit weird, like mismatching socks and they bring a plastic plate covered with a napkin. Under the napkin, you'd typically find a fruit and a can of tuna or corn and a couple of cookies or pieces of cake. For the more chashuva person, you might include a bottle of kosher l'pesach grape juice. The fruit, can and wine are put away and the mezonos placed on the table. A few pleasant minutes of 'so, how's the baby - or bubby' and off they go. No expensive 5 foot baskets, no $50 costumes, no leftover mountains of 'kangaroo flavored Chewie Yucks[TM]' to dump when the kids aren't looking.

2. Drinking - I know this is a very serious item, so I'll do this one soberly.

Kids drink. Kids should NOT be drinking, even if its purim. Yes even, or maybe because its Purim. The guy driving his 7 adorable pizza kids might be drunk, at the very least he might have had a drink this morning, just to be able to cope with the pizza kids.

Then there's the idiot of a parent who says 'big deal I drank as a kid, why shouldn't my kid have it as good as I did' or 'My father let us drink, are you saying that my father, zecher tzadik levrocho, was wrong?'

Big problem, remember even as a teen they are little kids, please, please, ich bayte eich alle, someone has to be the responsible adult.

Oh, ad delo yada? It's a MITZVAH to drink. Go ask a rav, any rav, and if the rav by some drunken chance says it's OK to let kids drink, tell the rav in my name he is an apikores and give him my Email. WOW guts! No not really. It just so happens that I own a set of mishna brurah who backs my position on this. There is no MUST drinking if you insist on 'ad delo yada' take nap, that qualifies.

3. Shnoring - oy this one is a toughy.

Yes I think its good for BOYS to collect money on purim, (keeps em from stupid things, like getting drunk) Since kids don't have an income and can't participate in the matonos le'evyonim by giving, this way they can have a big chelek by channelling the money. I figure way over 7 figures, in cash, changing hands on purim, and the BOYS have a big part in it. Which accustoms them to tzedaka and chesed.

I'm getting to the 'BOYS' part. I think that girls should not be shnorring, not that girls don't have to do chesed, it's just I can't see letting my daughters go to a strange home to sell a win-a-trip-of-a-lifetime raffle. Sure its a big mitzvah but common sense says, that es past nish for girls to go, even in a group, sorta not a refined, eidel like, thing to do. Just my opinion of course, the rest of you may subject your daughters to the neighborhood sickos if it pleases you, after a couple of drinks or hours in a small car with 7 zeesa pizza kids.

4. Social life - whatever happened to going to sit at Zaydy/bubby's house for an hour. Now we seem to gravitate to the noise wherever its Happening.

The yeshivas mordechai hatzdik seems to be a good idea too. Imagine on a day off spending some quiet time with a kid in shul somewhere learning, nuts no? I mean I could be doing a mitzvah by drinking a beer, oh, you want me spend time with my kids, heck they can have a beer too! Idiots. Have we drifted so far that we don't realize what Judaism is based on?

Remember, the next generation of erlicha yid is influenced by YOUR actions.

And on that note, I wish all my readers a happy and thoughtful purim!

17 comments:

socialworker/frustrated mom said...

Happy Purim! I agree with your points. I have a really nice dvar torah on ad delo yada I will try and post it before purim.

Y.Y. said...

dude chill out

sarachka said...

You made very good points! These issues sometimes make you think what would purim be like without them. A Frielichin Purim to you! May we be zoche to see mordechi win over haman (yimachshimo) this year! Happy Purim!

Jacob Da Jew said...

Its %%^&& crazy how Mishloach Manot has gotten out of hand.

DW is telling me "We have to have a theme"

WTF???

Just drop some nosh in a basket and be done with it. But she is the easy one. Over by her aunt on Nostrand, it really, really gets crazy.

People feel obligated to give. Last year I decided not to give to everyone I saw, but that kinda pissed some of the relatives off.

I think I'm going to have blog about this "theme" business.

chaverah said...

lol, all your points are so very true. kids drinking, oy! Purim seems to turn people into hefkar land.
maybe your next post should be all the positive things about purim....

previous anon said...

Funny how sometimes purim is an excuse to act out secret inner dreams.
Like the guy who stands around with cigarette dangling from his lower lip, his shades just low enough that he can check out the babes walking past.
And that girl who is wearing the really colorful socks knows full well her mom would never let her wear loud clothing all year. but in the "spirit" of purim, tznuis is overridden by "fun".

s said...

Good points.

May we all have an enjoyable purim

Shpitzle Shtrimpkind said...

CY,

I could promise you stole your pointers from the Kahl Koirah I got in the mail!

Really, why is it that we try to drain the Yomim Tovim of all its spirit? C'mawn. Sure, we must remember safety. But why should all else be done the short way?

I grew up in a home where Yom Tov was felt from a month prior. I remember the excitement I felt while sitting in class, just thinking about the things my mother must have been baking right then. I remember it so well, it just makes me well up in childhood memories at the thought.

See, if we don't put our hearts into it, our children won't ever 'feel' it. I don't want my children to ever drag through holidays.

Pragmatician said...

Fabulous post.
I've been an opponent to the sudden license of youth drinking alcohol at home and by total strangers for as long as I can remember.
I really do not understand the parents that permit this.
Many end up at the hospital which is dangerous as well as terrible Chlulul.

Lvnsm27 said...

Good food for thought

happy purim

Anonymous said...

Great points.
I can't understand the THEME thing my kids have there ideas of what THEY want to dress up (we always had the choice as kids and it end up being cheaper cause they reuse stuff from year to year as in theme you can't) Yeshivas mordcha hatazic I'm very greatful to the people who take care of it!! Its the right way to start such a "hailiga" day my kids love it to its a win win for everyone

Anonymous said...

Great points.
I can't understand the THEME thing my kids have there ideas of what THEY want to dress up (we always had the choice as kids and it end up being cheaper cause they reuse stuff from year to year as in theme you can't) Yeshivas mordcha hatazic I'm very greatful to the people who take care of it!! Its the right way to start such a "hailiga" day my kids love it to its a win win for everyone

Anonymous said...

great points, but too serious...

take it easy, dude

a freilichen purim!

Anonymous said...

being so serious u almost sound like............





me!

:-)

Independent Frum Thinker said...

Can't say I agree with it all, but interesting post. :)

Jacob Da Jew said...

You have been selected to receive free advertising on the hottest billboard in town!!

Check it out here :

http://jacobdajew.blogspot.com/2007/03/i-was-chassidishe-blogger-for-purim.html


Enjoy!

Anonymous said...

geotorelxzp credit companies
best debt consolidation